Ever wondered what a wife feels when a child is brought home by another woman due to her husband’s repeated infidelity or children who have to carry their dad home night as he is always in a drunken stupor. Try remember the failed attempts at rehab for a friend, the money thrown to the bottle by a relative that could have paid for school fees for his kids, the emotional drain as one bears with a cheating spouse or even the social standing that is lost in a violent home. Addictions often start as “friends” who fulfill our desires only to later become “masters” that enslave us.
God Cures Addictions
Moses was constantly spending time with God and hearing from Him. At some point, he spent forty days and forty nights on Mount Sinai to listen to God’s instructions about His people, Israel. Spending time with God helped Moses see the Israelites as God saw them, a chosen generation, not their addictions.
The only way we can see people as God sees them is when we are constantly seeking God and hearing Him through His word. Unless we see people as who they could be and not who they are, we can only help for so long. Addictions tend to grip people for a long time. Our greatest undoing is that we try to help people with our own wisdom which often fails but when we turn to God we receive precise instructions just as Moses did at the mountain.
Solutions based on God are bound to work and even when they take long to bear results, we can trust in Him because it is counsel beyond our own understanding. Moses gave the Israelites specific instructions from God even in times of impossibilities with regards to the Promised Land. The recovery of our loved ones, out of addictions, is that Promised Land, God wants to speak to them about it through us.
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Call it as it is..An Addiction
Moses probably faced the toughest job of leading people of such a great number through places he did not understand and to top it all up they constantly rebelled against God’s instructions, going back to their “addictions“. It would have been a romantic affair had the Israelites been willing to follow instructions but this was not the case, in fact, even Moses’ own siblings, Aaron and Miriam conspired against him yet he had to take a stand to condemn sin at all times. He never sought common opinion even when he seemed to be alone; he called it as it was-sin. He even went to the extent of reminding the Israelites not to brag of their righteousness when they possessed the Promised Land rather to know it was the wickedness of the people on that land that was being punished. Listen to what he said,
Deut. 9:4-5 Do not think in your heart, after the Lord your God has cast them out before you saying, “Because of my righteousness the Lord has brought me in to possess this land”; but it is because of the wickedness of these nations that the Lord is driving them out from before you. It is not because of your righteousness or the uprightness of your heart that you go in to possess their land, but because of the wickedness of these nations that the Lord your God drives them out from before you, and that He may fulfill the word which the Lord swore to your fathers, to Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.
Sometimes it is not easy to stand up and face those we love especially when our opinion may drive them further away from us but we should never try to win them over by accepting their addictions; we have to make it clear that we love them but we do not approve of their acts. Bold stands may raffle feathers at the moment, but they give us the platform to speak into their lives when they finally accept our help in the future. Don’t sugar coat God’s opinion, tell it as it is. For a few tips on how to explain the need for those in addictions to take responsibility, read this post>>>
Humility Breaks addictions
Regardless the promises God had for His people Israel; Moses never wanted them to take credit in any of it rather to know that it was all in God’s mercy for them. He remembered God’s hand on them in the face of their own dishonor; this drew out a sense of humility within him which he openly articulated.
Even as things look up, people do not leave addictions without God’s help; we need to always bear this in mind both for them and ourselves. When they become self-confident, they will get drawn back to their addictions; what takes a long time to build can tumble in a blink when pride checks in.
Deut. 9:6-7 Therefore understand that the Lord your God is not giving you this good land to possess because of your righteousness, for you are a stiff-necked people. Remember! Do not forget how you provoked the Lord your God to wrath in the wilderness. From the day that you departed from the land of Egypt until you came to this place, you have been rebellious against the Lord.
Count the Cost of Addictions
Moses understood the magnitude of the task given to him. It is no wonder he kept bringing up excuses of his inadequacy to go before Pharaoh, with his stammer and lack of power. During the journey in the wilderness, he had to sacrifice a lot key among them being the fast, which lasted for forty days and forty nights. All in all, for him to lead the Israelites, he had to lay his life down and step out of his comfort zone and do things that were a bit demanding of him.
Without a doubt, the journey will not be easy as we try to help our loved ones out of addictions. The emotional burden, financial strain, social stigma or even the physical sacrifice of our time and energy are all things we need to bear in mind as we set off. There may be rejection to our help in the beginning but when we lose hope in them, we worsen the case and so we have to keep our eyes focused on the prize; redemption at all costs. Our moments of sacrifice are God’s entry points into the lives of those we love.
Deut. 9:9-10 When I went up into the mountain to receive the tablets of stone, the tablets of the covenant which the Lord made with you, then stayed on the mountain forty days and forty nights. I neither ate bread nor drank water. Then the Lord delivered to me two tablets of stone written with the finger of God, and on them were all the words which the Lord had spoken to you on the mountain in the midst of fire in the day of the assembly.
Sometimes no one notices our efforts but we should not be dismayed, God honors all that we do out of sacrifice for the sake of those in addictions. I know that praying can be hard when it seems like there are no answers, so I wrote something on how to keep praying despite this, read more here>>>
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