Previously we had talked about clutter in our lives that keeps us from hearing God’s voice in our circumstances. This clutter can be eliminated by understanding this very statement; life happens. When we understand that what we are going through is part of life and is common to man, our perspective to the situations we are faced with changes dramatically. Our situations are never special to us rather as part of being on earth we are guaranteed of such things happening to us. There are quick ways to shift our focus from our problems and start seeing God’s hand, all outlined here.
When we get entangled in the derailing thought that our issues are peculiar and that we need a greater intervention we withdraw to two general character traits, both of which serve to get us deeper in our bondage.
- Whining attitude
Once I get it in my head that what I am going through is too big to handle, I begin sharing it and probably seek solutions. The problem comes when we share from a point of despair with a resolved mind that nothing can be done for us. People who whine share not to receive help rather to seek audience for their sob story. They always have reasons why suggested solutions will not work yet they have not been tested.
Empathetic listening is good in communication; however giving space to someone to whine over the same thing over and over again only makes them worse. We create what we speak-this is the power of the tongue. Complaining about situations in a way that will not yield solutions only bears the same, a lack of solutions.
The more we complain about our problems the bigger they become and the best way to handle these very problems is by changing our speech from the place of defeat, to that of victory. The things we complain most about are often things we can change but haven’t taken the step to do something about it. Our whining is a matter of our sub-conscious telling us to get up and do something about our situation yet our inaction opts to sit back and complain.
The best thing we can do for ourselves is to always reflect on what we are going through and try seeing how others who went through the same handled the situation. What we go through is not special to us, rather than whine find ways to handle the circumstance, the tongue has the power of life and death, what we speak in our circumstances is as important as how we handle them.
- Secretive attitude
At times what we are going through may be hard to share with people as it may be very sensitive and personal. The reason why people go through painful situations in their relationships is the lack of vulnerability. Marriages suffer because spouses feel their marital issues are best kept private and that they can handle them on their own only to lead to separation. Adults suffer addictions and fear sharing as it seems shameful and so continue in their pain within while showing happy faces on the outside.
The harm with this behavior is that we easily create an altar for our problem as it usually grows bigger with time. A secret is always supplemented by another and the only way to break free is by sharing. There is nothing worse than being eaten from the inside yet no one seems to recognize on the outside. Once we start having issues tucked inside, we lose focus on other areas of life and consequently our whole life crumbles. This is why such secrets are seen as having altars in our lives; they take such a big chunk in all we focus on that everything else diminishes in worth. What we hold onto, takes hold of us.
God instructs us to confess our sins to each other and find our healing; when we break the hold of sin in our lives by exposing it, it loses its grip on us. What we are unable to share is still having a hold of us and we cannot truly be set free if we are unwilling to break such bonds. Wonderful things happen when we share our weaknesses and faults regardless of how big they may be. The load that exists from holding things within is lifted and the vulnerability creates community. People are drawn to helping those in need and, sharing our plight with others opens the room for help.
When we start talking about these things we realize that what we are going through is a common thing-that marriages have their tough times, addictions can be overcome, diseases we may be having are actually being studied and much more. If there is one great thing we can decide to do for ourselves is to share our circumstances, we’ll soon realize it’s all part of life.
Drawing back into scripture Christ also wants us to realize that life happens to all of us. Our situations are not special that they cannot be solved and so we should not handle them as such. The Pharisees condemned the woman about her act of adultery yet they too had sin in them. When Christ put it out there that being in a sinful world we are all fallen in nature those who condemned her turned away. I do believe the woman’s healing began when she saw them walk away and realizing that she did not have to feel condemned; that in different circumstances we are all unworthy because life just happens.
John 8:7-9 So when they continued asking Him, He raised Himself up and said to them, “He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.” And again He stooped down and wrote on the ground. Then those who heard it, being convicted by their conscience, went out one by one beginning with the oldest even to the last. And Jesus was left alone, with the woman in the midst.
WRITE NEW SCRIPTS
When it’s all said and done, freedom comes when we accept it; it is a change that flows from the inside out. Once we are set free our ways change from those of captivity to those of the redeemed otherwise, we stand to return to the same cycle of captivity. We take on a new order, a new set of rules- we write a new script for our lives.
How do we write new scripts?
- Accepting the unconditional love
We are God’s children regardless our past or current circumstances. Nothing can separate us from the love of God and realizing this saves us the pain of guilt and shame. Situations may seem tough but when we stand on this word that God loves us, we can trust Him to take us through the very situation all to His glory.
The greatest peace is found in depending on God’s unconditional love for me, I see every circumstance in light of His love in that all things are working together for my good. This is something that happens within us and we need to make the choice to believe even in those times when nothing seems to be working for us.
The woman had to accept that she was not being condemned, for her healing to come; it starts from the inside.
Simply put repentance is confessing our sin before God and turning a new leaf. We need to have a change in attitude and behavior, recognize the things that lead you in the wrong path and find ways to keep in check. Different people find different ways to stay on the right path but you need a good self-assessment that is honest to come up with a formula that works.
Become radical in your change lest you get drawn to your old ways-whining, secrecy- and do it with people. Having people around you to keep you accountable is an unspoken rule; no real change comes from a single man’s effort. As much as possible share about your new ways and be in environments that encourage and nurture the new you, people tend to treat us as we treat ourselves so mold their perception of the changed person that you are.
When it is all said and done, enjoy life to the fullest; your past has nothing to do with your future but your present has everything to do with it. Steer clear of how your circumstance held you back in the past, or the fear of the unknown future; live in the now. Have your best moments now regardless what you may be going through; we only live once, but if we live right, once is enough.
How we live is an expression of the new scripts on the outside.
Jesus asked the woman to write a new script; in recognizing that she wasn’t condemned and by changing her ways she transformed from the inside out. Her salvation from captivity had come.
John 8:10-11 When Jesus had raised Himself up and saw no one but the woman, He said to her, “Woman, where are those accusers of yours? Has no one condemned you?” She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said to her, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.”
Only in Jesus Christ do we find freedom to live out our God given purpose. So what is freedom for me?…getting all that I can in Christ and not caring of what I don’t have. To understand the simplicity of Christianity find time to have a read here, watch your life being set free.
John 8:12 Then Jesus spoke to them again, saying, “I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life.”
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Ecclesiastes 1:16-18 I communed with my heart saying, “Look I have attained greatness and have gained more wisdom than all who were before me in Jerusalem. My heart has understood great wisdom and knowledge.” And I set my heart to know wisdom and to know madness and folly. I perceive that this also is grasping for the wind. For in much wisdom is much grief, and he who increases knowledge increases sorrow.
It would not be fair to leave you with this information and let you try to change by your own wisdom and strength-it is like chasing the wind. Only in Jesus Christ does all this make sense and by the guidance of the Holy Spirit will we know the way to go. Say this prayer and receive a new life..
Heavenly Father, I come to You in the Name of Jesus. Your Word says, “Whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved” (Acts 2:21). I am calling on You. I pray and ask Jesus to come into my heart and be Lord over my life, according to Romans 10:9-10—“If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” I do that now. I confess that Jesus is Lord, and I believe in my heart that God raised Him from the dead.
I am now reborn! I am a Christian—a child of Almighty God! I am saved! You also said in Your Word, “If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?” (Luke 11:13). I am also asking You to fill me with the Holy Spirit. Holy Spirit, rise up within me as I praise God. I fully expect to speak with other tongues as You give me utterance (Acts 2:4).
The prayer was obtained from the Kenneth Copeland Ministries.